Two main "statuses" of a wrong-doer (from the perspective of a victim):

-Forgiven
-Unforgiven

Several main "statuses" of a wrong-doer (from the perspective of a victim):

-Forgiven
-Untrusted 1 (no hard feelings towards that person, relationship is ended for pragmatic reasons i.e. to avoid being hurt again, feelings are "soft" so the victim may do favors and benefits towards the wrong-doer as long as that does not put the victim into a vulnerable position)
-Untrusted 2 (no hard feelings towards that person, relationship is ended for pragmatic reasons i.e. to avoid being hurt again, feelings are not very "soft" so while there are no hard feelings towards the wrong-doer anymore, there will be no favors or benefits done towards them, even if doing so will not put the victim into a vulnerable position)
-Unforgiven 1 (no revenge, but relationship is ended)
-Unforgiven 2 (revenge)

Three 'aspects' of wrong-doing:

-Perfective (only once was the misdeed performed, and there is no reason to believe it will happen again)
-Habitual (habitual repetition of the same misdeed, and there is therefore good reason to believe it will happen again)
-Past Habitual (the misdeed was a habitual action but the wrong-doer has changed and stopped doing it, and there is no reason to believe it will happen again)

"Levels" of wrong-doing:

1: Very low
2: Low
3: Medium
4: High
5: Very high

(note: it can be any number of levels, not just 5, and what is deemed "unforgivable" depends on how strict the victim's standards are)

Observation: in the case where a wrong-doing is habitual, there may be a distinction between whether you are able to stop the wrong-doer from doing it, or whether you are not able to stop them from doing it. In the latter case, "forgiveness" is merely an emotional attitude, and is unable to cause any actual change in the course of events.

Intention of harm vs actual harm caused by the wrong-doer:

0I: No intention of harm
1I: Very low intention of harm
2I: Low intention of harm
3I: Medium intention of harm
4I: High intention of harm
5I: Very high intention of harm
0H: No actual harm
1H: Very low actual harm
2H: Low actual harm
3H: Medium actual harm
4H: High actual harm
5H: Very high actual harm

E.g. 5I-1H is a wrong-doer who has a very high intention of harm, but actually caused very little harm to the victim (possibly because the wrong-doer did not have the possibility of causing more damage, or perhaps the wrong-doer falsely believes that the victim has been greatly harmed). 0I-5H is someone who had no intention of harm at all, but accidentally caused very high damage.

Five main approaches to wrong-doing:

1: Cut off the relationship with the wrong-doer without giving any warning or explanation
2: Cut off the relationship with the wrong-doer without giving any warning, but an explanation as to what the wrong-doing was
3: Giving a warning that an action is considered a wrong-doing, and if that action continues, cut off the relationship with that person
4: Giving a warning that an action is considered a wrong-doing, but even if that action continues, do not cut off the relationship with that person (doormat)
5: Not giving any warning and just suffer silently, pretending that everything is okay

Approaches to revenge (there are several combinations):

1: No revenge in any circumstance (pacifism, though violence *may* be allowed in self-defense if there's an immediate risk to oneself)
2: No revenge for perfective wrong-doings (i.e. the ones done only once), revenge for habitual wrong-doings
3: Revenge for both perfective wrong-doings AND habitual wrong-doings
4: Revenge for perfective wrong-doings but not for habitual wrong-doings (very bizarre but still a possible combination)
5: Revenge for intentional harm but not for accidental harm, or unaware harm (i.e. something someone has done without knowing it had hurt you)
6: Revenge for habitual intentional harm but not for perfective intentional harm, nor for accidental/unaware harm of any kind.
7: Distinction between words (emotional damage) vs actions (physical damage).
7.1: "Sticks and bones may break my bones but words will never hurt me".
7.2: "I don't care if you break my bones but if you insult me you're gonna regret it!".
7.3: Forgiving both.
7.4: Applying revenge in both situations.
7.4.1: Only fighting insults with insults, and physical violence with physical violence.
7.4.2: Both insults and physical violence are retaliated against with physical violence.
7.4.3: Both insults and physical violence are retaliated against with insults.
7.4.4: Fighting insults with physical violence, and physical violence with insults (bizarre approach but still thinkable).

Quantity of revenge:

1: No revenge
2: Revenge equal to the harm you've been subjected to
3: Revenge higher to the harm you've been subjected to
4: Revenge lower to the harm you've been subjected to
5: More nuanced